Genesis 2:18—“Then the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone.”
Honest writing moment: I’m lonely.
And before anyone jumps in with the “oh no, here comes a sad post”—this isn’t that.
This isn’t a woe-is-me thing.
I’m genuinely lonely.
Which is strange, honestly, because I’m married with children so there is always noise in my house.
And still—I feel isolated. Why is that?
Has anyone else ever stopped and thought this?
Or is this just my anxiety-riddled brain doing what it does best—assuming the worst and calling it reality?
Maybe. And I may be overthinking (my brain is really good at that!), but the numbers don’t lie.
According to several sources, I’m not alone.
(No pun intended.)
Loneliness by the numbers:
Nearly 1 in 2 adults report feeling lonely on a regular basis.
(U.S. Surgeon General, 2023)
Loneliness increases the risk of premature death by 26–29%—
roughly the same impact as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
(Harvard School of Public Health)
One in two adults. Let that sit for a second.
So maybe this feeling isn’t as far-fetched as it seems.
Maybe it’s not just me spiraling in my own head.
And maybe—quietly—you feel this way too.
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The Silence Nobody Talks About
Some people dont realize how lonely adulthood can be.
No one really checks in on you anymore and you stop getting the random phone calls to see how you’re doing.
I don’t think people are trying to be mean. I really don’t. But, everyone is tired, guarded, and surviving. It’s sad. We’ve become so busy with ourselves that we have forgot what being human is.
Have you tried to make friends lately? It’s absolutely exhausting. It is emotional labor now and trying to make connections isn’t supposed to feel this way.
Everyone tries to open up a little, test the waters—but then somewhere deep down you’re already calculating the cost if it falls apart.
Then comes the part where we just stop trying. And its not on purpose necessarily—you just need to slow down. And before you know it, isolation creeps in wearing the disguise of peace.
Trust Is Expensive Now
We live in a time where everyone is cautious and nobody trusts easily.
Everyone has been burned and we’re all somewhat damaged.
So, instead of finding connection we settle for distance.
Instead of showing up, we scroll.
Instead of calling, we assume someone else will.
And the body pays the price.
Loneliness doesn’t just affect emotions.
It also affects:
Sleep.
Stress.
Life expectancy.
There’s a reason people are breaking down quietly.
God Didn’t Design This
From the very beginning, God said something wasn’t right.
“It is not good for man to be alone.”
It wasn't restricted to just marriage. It also meant:
Community.
Presence.
Shared life.
Even Jesus — surrounded by crowds — felt the weight of being left alone. He asked His closest friends to stay with Him and they fell asleep.
Loneliness isn’t new.
But it was never the goal.
When the Phone Stays Silent
There’s something humbling about realizing the only person who checks on you consistently is your spouse, coworkers, or parents.
You’re grateful—But there’s still a quiet ache for friendship that feels effortless.
That ache doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful, It just means you’re human and pretending it doesn’t exist doesn’t make it go away.
My Final Thoughts
This world has made connection complicated and I hate it.
I remember the days when people sat down and talked…for HOURS. I remember Sunday dinners at grandmothers where everyone just enjoyed each other’s presence. And, I remember a time when having casual conversation was normal, not something you ran away from.
I don’t believe for a second this is how God intended for us to live—unseen, unheard, and unchecked on. He wanted us to have community, friendships, and connection.
So yeah. I’m lonely. But, at least when people don’t call, God still does.
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Call to Repentance
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The things you said is everything I’ve been feeling for a long time. Thank you
Trying to make friends as an adult...sheesh! I've tried, many times. So far, only two of those have stuck: one became my husband; the other has honorary family status because he's been such a good friend this past year.
Yes, I'm often lonely. When a promising friendship falls through, it hurts (they were moms, too), but I think it's part of pruning. IDK how God's working on you, but He's making sure I will stand for Him, even if I'm (humanly) alone.